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What is Divorced Dads Matter
Divorced Dads Matter is a site started by a typical father who was, and is still, constantly amazed at the prevailing social view of father’s as secondary parents and the court systems approval of this attitude. Divorced Dads Matter seeks to offer support, information, and a voice for good fathers that simply want to love and be a meaningful part of their children’s lives. This is not an organization. This is not a legal service. This is just one person’s attempt to shed light on the injustice that father’s often face during divorce and custody rights litigation and post-divorce issues faced by single fathers and fathers in new relationships. All reasonable perspectives are welcome regardless of age, race, sexual identity, creed, or religion. Fatherhood is fatherhood, and all tolerant fathers opinions, needs, and voices are welcome here.
Who am I?
I am a divorced father. I received joint legal custody and about 40 percent physical custody of my child. . . sadly, I feel lucky. No father should feel lucky that they are “allowed” to see their own child 40% of the time. I did things I am not proud of leading up to the time of my divorce, but those are not the reasons that I am divorced. And, while I regret some of those actions, I don’t regret my decision to divorce. I lived in an unhealthy relationship and believe that we are both better off as a divorced couple.
More importantly, I am a great father. I was their for my son’s birth and participated equally IN EVERY WAY after his birth. For much of his first two years, I was the the primary care giver- including working 3rd shift full-time for one year, so I could take care of my son during the day and he wouldn’t have to go to daycare. And, yet, when he was two years old and custody was decided, my past record as sole or equal care giver did not matter. I did not receive joint physical custody of my own child simply because my ex-wife did not want me to. This is a travesty. There is no way to justify this type of imbalance in our Family Court System or the ongoing favoritism post-divorce. It is time more fathers speak out. Join me in my small effort to shed light on one of the biggest injustices occurring in our country everyday.
What you will find here
You will find information, news, and links to resources. You will hear my struggles with divorce and post-divorce custody, ex-wife relationship issues, advice, and general ramblings. But, more importantly, you will find that your are not alone and that you do have a voice.
What you will not find here
You will NOT find legal advice here. Get a good attorney; I am not one. You will NOT find religious arguments or promotion. This is not a religious site. It is about divorced dads. You will not find a forum for hating women. I am a strong believer in EQUAL rights for all- including the children. In fact, I am currently in a loving, healthy relationship with a strong, intelligent, independent woman. You will not find hateful, degrading, or debasing information regarding women.
